With a husband working long hours, parenting, and the absurdity of it in our society is another huge topic, I mean it is hard to care for little ones no matter how you cut it.
Early childhood development is my issue if I am at a dinner party and have to have just one. It is my favorite passionate social topic. I can’t wait for a good dinner party again.
The fact that maternity leave is called Disability in our workplace, and there is not universal childcare and only three months to have a baby and nurture it?
All other developed countries have around a year to stay home with a baby, nurture, and bond with it.
There is a wonderful documentary called NO SMALL MATTER. This illustrates the harm to the child and the greater good of our society if we do not get to spend time with our children.
How could I share all that concern through my clothes?
Though I try. In so many ways. I consider each piece as a mom garment first, then teacher, gardener, and ultimately creator.
Each piece deserves a story, a film, an explanation of why the particular transformation was right. The clothes deserve multiple angles of photos they can sometimes get before they’re sold.
The knack for finding the right garment for each person who crossed my path at an event was uncanny. Sometimes, it’s true I could not, and that is how I merchandised the future line of what I had to make for the line to be complete.
Fitting people with the right garment leads many to try one on and taking photos with different angles or sides so people wearing the same garment could see how it looked, instead of just looking in a mirror.
People want to see that, like seeing the short video online on your favorite clothing website showing the garment on a model moving in real-time.
It is part of the process of buying one of our pieces, and it is always the process that one usually finds enjoyable and unique.
So here we go, please enjoy yourself and my ride on this rollercoaster of living through this blog.
Why would anyone who has been told their entire life they cannot write, try to write a blog?
When we analyze who and why labels get ingrained in our heads we see it just is not true even if there is a grain of truth. No blanket statements, please.
Why write a blog? I like writing. It is the gateway to making money online.
My favorite blog is ManRepeller. The first blog I became interested in, about fashion, no less.
The clothing she, Leandra Medine shared was man repellant. Ha, it cracked me up, the kind of men we do not ever satisfy anyway, probably hooked on some stereotype of a woman on a pedestal, which is quite the opposite of respecting women.
It just means no one can ever achieve the inhuman fantasy.
Repeller, the recently updated name of her blog showed women wearing black loafers, turtle necks, and overalls looks were ok and cute! Deflecting the male gaze, back in the day as some of those said men were repelled by the outfits because they were not girly-girl looks.
Of course, I love me some wing-tipped shoes of any stripe, and stripes, vertical, horizontal, plaids, checks, oversized clothes, and socks, always! In no uncertain terms, I could relate.
Anyway, the blog was very good, helpful, funny, and relatable like any good story should be.
From the get-go, it made tons of money. I am sure, as she took us along the way, as she grew and hosted guest bloggers sharing timely stories, it was always professional and personal. There was a hired team from the beginning.
Sadly I have to report Repeller closed down last month. Read all about it here in The Cut.
My sister uses to tell me about the *design sponge Blog by Grace Bonney all the time, that was her favorite.
I read it a lot but, did I fully grasp how helpful it would have been for me while working and raising kids. I could have followed all the great business and creative information offered?
Possibly I like to watch TV too much? Read, socialize, parent my kids, cook, clean, organize, and decorate, on a budget of course?
Whatever the reason I am following a lot of what the two of them encouraged, now. Telling my story and being business-minded.
I did not do all that I could have years ago. When at the same time, my sister saw one of my SaladBowlDress vests in an ad on the *Design Sponge site, she about jumped out of her skin!
Somehow my Google analytics or AdSense was working and there were ads for my goods. I had to say it was a fluke but it scored major points with my super-smart, Ad Exec sister.
But Grace Bonney moved on and closed down the blog. Her brand is still a huge presence on Instagram though and in the link above you can access her fifteen years of the blog through the Library of Congress.
I spent many years inconsistently commenting and following many bloggers, IG’s, and YouTube favorites hoping someone would discover my work? I just didn’t know what I know now.
It really does not work that way. All the things you are supposed to do I did on a small scale and have had some recognition.
But it is simple, write excellent content.
Write excellent content consistently.
Write about your interests that align with your brand.
For me, that would be a sustainable fashion and lifestyle.
At one time I thought of myself as the Martha Stewart of Red Hook, Brooklyn.
Then, the neighborhood had a little intervention telling me I needed my own studio.
Getting my own studio making stuff as I do now lasted six months prior to moving to the suburbs of So Cal when my husband got his dream job teaching Art in college.
There was no stopping us. I would continue doing what I do while my husband was a college professor.
Things didn’t turn out as we planned.
I set up shop in the garage but the three kids had more demands on me than ever. Joyfully thinking we both could do it all.
Everything was different.
Childcare was usually at a church if you were not already on the waiting lists for the college, and another popular preschool had a waiting list too.
PreK was half a day instead of a full day like in NYC.
Baby sitters were not as readily available and after school home care was pretty full, and the Jewish after school program was not as open to non-Jewish little kids.
Of course, I was not alone, childcare is a huge stressor on families. Moms and Dads need to go to places where little kids are not always welcome, like work.
We were fortunate for having parents on the west coast alive and well but very busy themselves with their own jobs and not about to babysit.
The cost of living seems higher than in new york? We were now living on my husband’s salary rather than my fashion industry salary which had been about a third more.
It was time to get a job and throw my dreams out the window.
I did do that and we still had childcare problems and ‘no mom’ problems for just a little more money when we weighed the differences.
If only I knew how blogging worked then?